What is a Healthy Relationship?
Signs of a healthy relationship.
- You and your partner have other interests besides each other.
- You feel that you could end the relationship if you are not happy.
- You respect each other’s opinions, even when they are different.
- You feel good when you get together with your partner.
- You accept responsibility for your actions.
- You treat your partner with respect and expect respect in return.
- You understand that both partners have the right to say “no,” set limits, and have them respected.
- You communicate with each other clearly and honestly.
Signs of an unhealthy relationship
- Your partner gets extremely jealous.
- You have seen your partner throw, hit or break things when they are angry.
- Your partner frequently makes you feel bad about yourself.
- Your partner has threatened or physically hurt you.
- Your partner pressures or forces you into sexual activity or situations.
- Your partner calls or texts you repeatedly.
- You are afraid to talk about your relationship problems or fears with your partner.
Q & A:
How do I get out of an unhealthy or abusive relationship?
First, if you think that you are in an unhealthy or abusive relationship, you should talk to a parent/guardian, friend, counselor, doctor, teacher, coach or other trusted person about your relationship. Tell them why you think the relationship is unhealthy or abusive and exactly what the other person has done. If needed, this person can help you contact others that can help you.
What do I do if a friend tells me that he or she is in an abusive relationship?
- Listen without judging or blaming
- Tell your friend that you believe them.
- Tell your friend that it is NOT their fault.
- Tell your friend that you are there to listen if they want to talk about it.
- Remind your friend of all the people who care about them.
- Let them know that you are worried about their safety.
- Offer to go with your friend to talk to an adult.
- Help your friend make a safety plan.
- Share the number a hotline they can call for more information or offer to call it yourself.
- Verbal - Name calling, insults, teasing, intimidation, homophobic or racist remarks, or verbal abuse.
- Physical - Hitting, kicking, tripping, pinching and pushing or damaging property.
- Emotional - When someone is made to feel bad about themselves, deliberately causing someone to develop low self esteem.
Sexual Harassment is:
- Continually asking someone out when they have communicated a lack of interest.
- Unwanted requests for social or sexual activity.
- Making sexual jokes, gestures, or remarks.
- Inappropriate touching (brushing up against, grabbing, patting, or pinching in a sexual manner).
- Spreading sexual rumors about someone.
- Making comments about a person's body, clothing, sexual orientation, or sexual behavior.
- Intimidation (blocking or cornering someone in a sexual way) or assault (pulling clothing off or down, forcing someone to do something sexual such as kissing).
- Inappropriate sexual remarks or questions in "cyberspace" (texting, videos, social media).
Some flirting between kids is normal and healthy, but sometimes it can be hard to tell the difference between flirting and sexual harassment.
- Flirting is welcome attention.
- Flirting goes both ways.
- Flirting makes you feel flattered or attractive.
- Flirting makes you feel in control.
- Flirting makes you feel good about yourself.
- Flirting is legal in school.
- Sexual harassment is not wanted.
- Sexual harassment is one-sided.
- Sexual harassment makes you feel put down or ugly.
- Sexual harassment makes you feel powerless.
- Sexual harassment makes you feel bad or dirty.
- Sexual harassment is a violation of school rules.
Sexual Harassment Statistics:
- 81 percent of students will experience some form of sexual harassment at some time while they are in school, with 27 percent experiencing it often.
- 85 percent of students report that students harass other students at their schools.
- Almost 40 percent of students report that teachers and other school employees sexually harass students in their schools.
Q & A:
What can I do if I am being bullied or sexually harassed?
The sooner you address it, the easier it will be to deal with. Many victims try to ignore it because they are embarrassed, they want to be liked or they are afraid of what the harasser will do. But if you let it go, the bully can get the message that their behavior is okay with you, and then it could get out of control.
What can I do if I see someone being bullied or sexually harassed?
Do not participate or stand by and watch when it is happening. Step in (if it is safe). Report the incident to adults and other authorities.
Bullying that takes place using electronic technology
- Sexting: Sending or forwarding nude, sexually suggestive, or explicit pics on your cell or online
- Constant Messaging: Constantly texting, IM'ing, or emailing a friend, bf/gf, frenemy, or anyone to keep tabs on or harass them.
- Spying: Sneaking peeks at others' text message or call history, breaking into a friend or bf/gfs's inbox, or even digitally stalking them.
- Digital Disrespect: Spreading negative or embarrassing dirt (true, untrue, or unknown, via text, pic or video) about someone behind their back or to their face. Using digital platforms to intentionally make other people's lives miserable.
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Effects of Cyberbullying:
- Rebecca Sedwick – Sheriff: Taunting post leads to arrests in Rebecca Sedwick bullying death – CNN, Wed October 16, 2013
- Daisy Coleman – Cyberbullying Drove The Maryville Rape Victim To Attempt Suicide This Weekend –Think Progress, by Tara Culp-Ressler,Jan 7, 2014
- Amanda Todd – Amanda Todd: Bullied Canadian Teen Commits Suicide After Prolonged Battle Online And In School – Huffington Post, by Ryan Grenoble, updated 10/12/12